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GBP Reboot: Dear Skinny Girl

  I used to be the girl who bitched about the skinny ones at the gym. How dare they mock me and my curvy-self trying oh-so-hard just to maintain? Why are they even here? I never asked the question out loud. But I’d usually answer it at home with a self-indulgent pity party for one complete […]

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GBP Reboot: Dear Skinny Girl

  I used to be the girl who bitched about the skinny ones at the gym. How dare they mock me and my curvy-self trying oh-so-hard just to maintain? Why are they even here? I never asked the question out loud. But I’d usually answer it at home with a self-indulgent pity party for one complete […]

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When Beauty equals Power

  by Shoshana Kohn I’m healed enough from heart surgery to workout. I’ve been at the gym most days. However, I’ve found myself in a huge predicament: no running skirt. I’m a strong believer in wearing what’s flattering and skirts cover the parts of me that I’m not ready to show the world. That’s how […]

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3 Editors in Search of a Definition

The GirlBodyPride Editors discuss Caitlyn Jenner, Jon Stewart, Objectification and More We here at GBP were trying to come up with a response to both Jon Stewart’s excellent response to Caitlyn Jenner’s Vanity Fair cover and to objectification in general. What happened instead was a pretty interesting conversation where we realized that often to us (and then probably to the rest of the population) this is one of those we know it when we see it things that we can’t quite explain. I mean, go Caitlyn! So happy you can be who you really are finally but yes, Stewart makes a point because now that you’re a mainstream hottie your accomplished past will go out the window. If one is modeling (and on the cover of Vanity Fair no less) there’s a … [Read More...]

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Welcome to GBP

  Girl. Because no matter what decade we find ourselves in, we share a desire to heal a piece of ourselves while doing everything within our power to make sure today’s daughters grow strong in mind before all else. Body. We are at war with the reflection we see in the mirror. It’s either too full or too thin or too curvy or not curvy enough. We want more for our daughters. We also want to be able to check out at the grocery store without being bombarded by magazine headlines touting The Best Diet, How to Get a Better Body Faster, and the Six-Week-Post-Partum-Bikini-Photo-Shoot that is now par for the course for practically every celeb mom. This constant reminder that we can’t possibly be happy as we are is what we (and … [Read More...]

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When Beauty equals Power

  by Shoshana Kohn I'm healed enough from heart surgery to workout. I've been at the gym most days. However, I've found myself in a huge predicament: no running skirt. I'm a strong believer in wearing what's flattering and skirts cover the parts of me that I'm not ready to show the world. That's how I found myself in the women's athletic department at Sports Authority. After a few minutes of searching through racks of yoga pants and sports bras, I found my mecca: running skirts. I started flipping through them: medium, small, small, extra small, medium, large. Not one extra large on the entire rack. I held the tiny large against my hips and shuttered trying to imagine shoving one butt-cheek into the skirt. I laugh out loud … [Read More...]

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GBP Reboot: Dear Skinny Girl

  I used to be the girl who bitched about the skinny ones at the gym. How dare they mock me and my curvy-self trying oh-so-hard just to maintain? Why are they even here? I never asked the question out loud. But I’d usually answer it at home with a self-indulgent pity party for one complete with a pint of ice-cream and whatever else I had pretended I was buying for the non-existent friends waiting in the car at various gas stations on the way home. Then, because I didn’t know how else to process, I’d purge until my insides were empty and my thoughts cleared from the fog in which I had lost myself. What I didn’t realize at the time was that others were looking at me the same way I looked at the girls skinner than my athletic … [Read More...]

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#ScrewHumble Fridays: Mackenzie Sand

Confession: I've been in a funk for far too long lately. I have so much good happening and it's all the things I've been working for since forever, so I understand that my Do I Have to Get Out of Bed and Adult Today mentality is not only annoying, but also can be seen as self-indulgent. I hate that. So every day I keep trying to take one more step forward and cheer myself into the Happy Lane again. One of my biggest and greatest sources of inspiration is my circle of strong and badass female friends. These ladies are amazing and showing me every day the ways in which they are standing strong over their own mental hurdles with themselves. Maybe it's an I Feel Pretty day or a NAILED IT update. I'm excited to say that after approaching … [Read More...]

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ChingonaFest on GBP: Sorry Not Sorry

I am surrounded by strong women. Every day in my social media feeds and Facebook conversations, I am reminded of this very fact, and most often the reminder comes exactly when I need it. What follows began as such an update shared by a good friend, Courtney Gonzales. After reading it and *fistpumping* with all the italic emphasis I could muster, I immediately messaged Courtney to ask if she was willing to share on Girl Body Pride in an effort to blend my #ChingonaFest community with GBP, seeing as how the second is really the Spanglish equivalent of the first. I am grateful she said yes.    I've been thinking quite a bit about the amount of time Women spend apologizing... The amount of time I spend apologizing. For … [Read More...]

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On Being Brave

There's a girl I know. She is bald and beautiful and brave. Maybe it's being brave enough to peel away the facade built to hide our insecurities that must come first. Loving the person we find that we are beneath all of the layers, I think, is the only beauty we should aspire to realize. I want to be this girl; this bald, beautiful, brave girl. I could joke and add, "When I grow up," to the end of that sentence. I may be old enough to be her mother, but I'm not going to pretend that this means I am smarter. I'm most certainly not as brave. Depending on the time of the month and how my body is reacting to hormonal imbalance and multiple food allergies, I can either suck it up and face the world anyway or hide myself behind my words. … [Read More...]

She's five and already telling me she can't wait to straighten her hair. I am almost 35 and responding with phrases like "You can't date until you're 15, 16 to try to chemically alter your hair and mess it up because you need to to realize you loved it the way it was, and 28 before you can get a small, tasteful tattoo on your inner ankle and get your family off your back for the tattoo by telling them your husband permission because that's what I did." And she nods and smiles and laughs. Then i tell her she is perfect the way she is.

GBP Reboot: New Reflections

I woke up at 6:30 and was still rushing to get out of the front door by 8:30. We had a 15 minute drive ahead of us to make the bus for the pumpkin patch, our lunches were packed, and Buttercup was sitting pretty on the couch watching TV while I rushed into the bathroom to pull my mexi-fro into a pony tail. I glanced at the clock as I walked by. It was 8:15. We were going to cut it close, but we would make it. I had just put my head in the sink for a quick wet down when I heard Buttercup call me from the living room. “Mama, I’m making myself beautiful now,” she sang out. I turned the faucet off and hurried back to the living room on high alert, already knowing what I was going to find. Buttercup had been dressed for hours, her curls … [Read More...]

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Help Me;

By Shoshana Kohn   Dear Friend, I'm writing because I'm not sure where else to turn. It's been three months since my heart surgery. Three months since they mended what was broken. Three months since they saved me from my slow suffocation. The first two months were filled with pain, the loss of my autonomy, mania, and a drug-fueled haze. And yet, through the power of I-don't-know-what, I felt euphoric and productive. Then, month three opened the door for my autonomy: I could drive, pick up my daughter, and live alone. But suddenly, melancholy seeped into my pours and overtook my body. I'd sneeze, and I'd still have to hold my body to protect myself from pain. My doctor warned me about post-op cardiac depression, but I'd lived … [Read More...]

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The #NudeAwakening

  Someone, anyone, please explain to me how Nude became synonymous with Being White? Because according to the Merriam-Webster's Dictionary, I'm not technically nude when I'm in my birthday suit because - wait for it - I'm not white. Or is there some fine print I'm missing here, being as the first definition defines nude as "having nothing on"? Not-so-Fine Print: I am not black. I am a first-generation Mexican-American with olive skin, a giant ass, hips for days, and the kind of kinky curls (and related teen angst) that have me stopping kinky-haired little girls and their mamas in public just to tell them how beautiful they are because no one did that for me. That being said, I'm also not white and Nude (as defined by the … [Read More...]

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Burlesque for Body Acceptance

When you think camp and retreat up in the mountains what do you think of? I bet you don't think showgirls and burlesque, do you? I didn't. And yet in early September in the mountains of California a Showgirl and Burlesque Life Retreat at The Lazy Z Resort in Twain Harte -- a tiny little town that time forgot above Sonora, California. Women's Empowerment Through Burlesque Retreat is the brain child of Anni Boelyn -- local to the area and a vibrant founder/member of the Burlesque troop the Kountry Kittens. She wants women to feel empowered to have fun with their bodies and to not feel ashamed or afraid to get up and show it off --regardless of what our bodies look like. And to find the humor and embrace comedy and having fun with … [Read More...]

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Navigating Our Daughters’ Bodies

Today I'd like us to start a very difficult conversation: pre-teen girls bodies. Whew. I didn't even like typing that. But every time I drop off or pick up my daughter at the pool this summer I'm confronted with that important uncomfortability. Where do we strike a balance between wanting our daughters to completely own their own bodies and wear what they feel like wearing in the record hot summer months and where do we strike that maternal caution of that looks too adult? It's something I've been pondering all summer. And I have no real answers yet. Except that I'm not forcing my daughter into a one piece--she'll have the rest of her life to live in our culture which shames fat and freedom of girls all the time and tells her she's … [Read More...]