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GBP Showcase: Like Mother, Like Daughter

by Margaret Elysia Garcia   As I write this, my just turned 9 year old daughter is sleeping beside me, curled up and making sleep sounds. We are still in that post Christmas stupor and I’m feeling a bit strange that this was the first birthday and Christmas that the daughter wanted absolutely no toys […]

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GBP Showcase: Like Mother, Like Daughter

by Margaret Elysia Garcia   As I write this, my just turned 9 year old daughter is sleeping beside me, curled up and making sleep sounds. We are still in that post Christmas stupor and I’m feeling a bit strange that this was the first birthday and Christmas that the daughter wanted absolutely no toys […]

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(GBP Showcase) Manifesto: That Thing You Want to Say

by Kelly Wickham The first welfare office I ever stepped in was in this one-story dark brown office building that was on the curve of a road that made it seem even more remote than it was. It was unmarked and so drab looking that it made me wonder if, in brighter daylight, it would […]

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  Girl. Because no matter what decade we find ourselves in, we share a desire to heal a piece of ourselves while doing everything within our power to make sure today’s daughters grow strong in mind before all else. Body. We are at war with the reflection we see in the mirror. It’s either too full or too thin or too curvy or not curvy enough. We want more for our daughters. We also want to be able to check out at the grocery store without being bombarded by magazine headlines touting The Best Diet, How to Get a Better Body Faster, and the Six-Week-Post-Partum-Bikini-Photo-Shoot that is now par for the course for practically every celeb mom. This constant reminder that we can’t possibly be happy as we are is what we (and … [Read More...]

25 ASteps to Pinterest Cake Perfection

by Shoshgana Kohn   I know you do it. Wake up in the middle of the night and stare at pinterest. I know you feel it. Jealousy. How do these other women create such perfection. How can they create such beauty. Don’t worry, I’ve figured out how to raise your pinterest self esteem in 25 steps, so you can go back to working on your pride in other areas of your life. You’re welcome.   The Perfect Ice Cream Cake   Step 1) Sneak away to the grocery store for your cookie making ingredients (aka two giant store bought chocolate chip cookies and a carton of whatever ice cream is on sale).   Step 2) Wander into the house no more then 10 minutes before 10 rambunctious 10-year-old boys are set to bring utter chaos to an … [Read More...]

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GBP Showcase: A Weigh in on Shame

by Michaella O'connor     “I look gooooood!  No seriously, I really look good!”  I look in the mirror and I truly think, “you rock this girl”  Naked, in yoga pants, jeans.  Doesn’t matter.  I like what I see.  And yet…………………………..   I feel shame for what I’ve done.  I’ve lost 50lbs.  And gained it all back.  Yep, every last pound. Okay, so I didn’t lose it overnight and I didn’t regain it overnight.  Never one to crash diet, I lost it the sensible way.  Eat less (and better) and move more.  But you know what it was – a goal. Once I lost the first 50, I thought, “I got this.  I can lose the last 10-15, but I can also cut myself a little slack.  Put more focus on other goals.  I got this.  I got this – what’s … [Read More...]

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GBP Showcase: Like Mother, Like Daughter

by Margaret Elysia Garcia   As I write this, my just turned 9 year old daughter is sleeping beside me, curled up and making sleep sounds. We are still in that post Christmas stupor and I’m feeling a bit strange that this was the first birthday and Christmas that the daughter wanted absolutely no toys whatsoever. Her list to Santa was all music, book and art supply related. The apple , they say, does not fall far from the tree. Tonight she even said, “Mommy, did you know there are kids who don’t like to read and don’t care about music and art? Isn’t that weird?” That question made me feel like I’m doing a good job.  Because it’s not easy raising a girl in this culture and mothers can feel like failures on a daily basis in all … [Read More...]

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(GBP Showcase) Manifesto: That Thing You Want to Say

by Kelly Wickham The first welfare office I ever stepped in was in this one-story dark brown office building that was on the curve of a road that made it seem even more remote than it was. It was unmarked and so drab looking that it made me wonder if, in brighter daylight, it would somehow look more cheerful. Nothing about it seemed as if it had ever been cheerful before so I doubted very much it could improve. To this day, I don’t know what other kinds of offices were in there. Maybe realtor offices or tax preparation. It was dank, depressing, and hard to like no matter what kind of tacky wallpaper they tried to put up to enhance it. The building was as hopeless as the people in it, welfare recipients and all. The summer between my … [Read More...]

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GBP Showcase: The Problem of Loving My Body & Body as Object

  My body is not an object to be appraised by me like I would a beautiful vase or an animal separate from me. It is not here for me to hate or love or have a relationship with as I would something outside myself. It is here to carry me through my days on this earth. It is here as a vehicle that feels separate from my consciousness, but is inseparable from my experience of the world. It is not a costume I have put on in the same way that I put on clothing I like or dislike. To hate or to love my body seems to put me outside of it. It divorces me from it, in a way. Whether it is love or hate I feel, it puts my body in the position of a thing that I appraise for worth of some kind, good or bad. I love me. I love what I can … [Read More...]

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GBP Showcase: Blogging Bravely

by Tanis Miller     I’ve written a blog post every day this week and deleted all but one of them. I’ve written about the public breakdown I had after Knox’s wheelchair collapsed in the middle of the street and no one offered to help me fix it. I’ve written about how some arsehole didn’t hold the door open as he walked through it and it almost broke Knox’s feet by when the door slammed on him. I wrote about blogging conferences and professional jealousies. I wrote about tax season. I just wrote a post about how the school phoned wanting my email so the principal could email me. How I have sat here for hours now, refreshing my email all the while imagining horrible scenarios involving my children and how I’m … [Read More...]

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GBP Showcase: Waiting for the Mean Girl

by Jennifer Collins When I was a little girl, my mother always told me that I was unique.  That in all of creation there had never been anyone just like me.  That my life had a purpose.  That I could do anything that I set my mind to.  That I was beautiful – from the inside out. And I believed her. Until one day in third grade. A girl that I considered to be a good friend told me that I wasn’t as special as I thought I was.  That I was conceited.  That I wasn’t pretty.  And in that moment, she unraveled the work of beauty in me that my mother had so carefully and deliberately been forming.  I would never again see the same reflection I had always seen in the mirror of myself.  From that moment on, I would search in earnest … [Read More...]

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(GPB ShowCase) Electrolosis: A Mother’s Beaty Standard

by Ariel Gore     When I called my mother over a crackling international phone line to tell her I was pregnant at 19, she gasped: “My god, Tiniest, you’re too young.” She was silent, then she kind of moaned. “The teenage skin isn’t elastic enough to recover from the trauma of pregnancy. You’ll have horrendous stretch marks.” I was homeless, hoping to find a squat with my boyfriend before I started showing–and before the weather turned cold. My mother sent Clarins’ anti-stretch mark cream and toning oil care of the food bank in Barcelona. I hitchiked home that day with an onion, a 5-pound bag of rice, and the $50+ tubes of beauty-hope that still had their price tags on them. Morning and night, I diced … [Read More...]

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Girl Body Pride: The Introduction

Girl. Because no matter what decade we find ourselves in, we share a desire to heal a piece of ourselves while doing everything within our power to make sure today’s daughters grow strong in mind before all else. I've got about a months to pull off a miracle. But if we are being perfectly honest here, the only miracle am refewring to would be the Me Sticking to the Work Behind the Dream. It happens to all of us; and it's a bitch to pick up the momentum to get back to where you were going before talking yourself out of confidence and spunk, STOP THAT.  STOP IT RIGHT NOW!  Body. We are at war with the reflection we see in the mirror. It’s either too full or too thin or too curvy or not curvy enough. We want more for our … [Read More...]

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GBP Showcase: The Tilt Shifts Reality (Again)

We're revisiting some of the most powerful writing in the GBP archives by the very talented writers who graced this site with the stories they wrote and in which we usually saw ourselves. That's how the really good stuff is supposed to work, right? Stay tuned for new stories and new voices when we officially relaunch GBP. For now, Jessi Sanfillippo has a story to tell you. This piece originally appeared on GBP in 2012.     It’s no surprise that I’ve gone through some physical changes and struggles with my weight. These changes came not from the growth of a miniature human, because ten days on the breast, the swift passing of a gall stone, and the lingering metabolism of my early twenties had me back in pre-babe shape by week … [Read More...]