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Family: The Root of All Shame?

In a Body Positive group I found on FB a few weeks ago, a member of the group began thinking out loud about just how frequent it is that our first body shame happens in our own families. Often from our own mothers or grandmothers. We may blame the media about our negative body images […]

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Burlesque for Body Acceptance

When you think camp and retreat up in the mountains what do you think of? I bet you don’t think showgirls and burlesque, do you? I didn’t. And yet in early September in the mountains of California a Showgirl and Burlesque Life Retreat at The Lazy Z Resort in Twain Harte — a tiny little town that time […]

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3 Editors in Search of a Definition

The GirlBodyPride Editors discuss Caitlyn Jenner, Jon Stewart, Objectification and More We here at GBP were trying to come up with a response to both Jon Stewart’s excellent response to Caitlyn Jenner’s Vanity Fair cover and to objectification in general. What happened instead was a pretty interesting conversation where we realized that often to us […]

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3 Editors in Search of a Definition

The GirlBodyPride Editors discuss Caitlyn Jenner, Jon Stewart, Objectification and More We here at GBP were trying to come up with a response to both Jon Stewart’s excellent response to Caitlyn Jenner’s Vanity Fair cover and to objectification in general. What happened instead was a pretty interesting conversation where we realized that often to us (and then probably to the rest of the population) this is one of those we know it when we see it things that we can’t quite explain. I mean, go Caitlyn! So happy you can be who you really are finally but yes, Stewart makes a point because now that you’re a mainstream hottie your accomplished past will go out the window. If one is modeling (and on the cover of Vanity Fair no less) there’s a … [Read More...]

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Welcome to GBP

  Girl. Because no matter what decade we find ourselves in, we share a desire to heal a piece of ourselves while doing everything within our power to make sure today’s daughters grow strong in mind before all else. Body. We are at war with the reflection we see in the mirror. It’s either too full or too thin or too curvy or not curvy enough. We want more for our daughters. We also want to be able to check out at the grocery store without being bombarded by magazine headlines touting The Best Diet, How to Get a Better Body Faster, and the Six-Week-Post-Partum-Bikini-Photo-Shoot that is now par for the course for practically every celeb mom. This constant reminder that we can’t possibly be happy as we are is what we (and … [Read More...]

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Burlesque for Body Acceptance

When you think camp and retreat up in the mountains what do you think of? I bet you don't think showgirls and burlesque, do you? I didn't. And yet in early September in the mountains of California a Showgirl and Burlesque Life Retreat at The Lazy Z Resort in Twain Harte -- a tiny little town that time forgot above Sonora, California. Women's Empowerment Through Burlesque Retreat is the brain child of Anni Boelyn -- local to the area and a vibrant founder/member of the Burlesque troop the Kountry Kittens. She wants women to feel empowered to have fun with their bodies and to not feel ashamed or afraid to get up and show it off --regardless of what our bodies look like. And to find the humor and embrace comedy and having fun with … [Read More...]

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Navigating Our Daughters’ Bodies

Today I'd like us to start a very difficult conversation: pre-teen girls bodies. Whew. I didn't even like typing that. But every time I drop off or pick up my daughter at the pool this summer I'm confronted with that important uncomfortability. Where do we strike a balance between wanting our daughters to completely own their own bodies and wear what they feel like wearing in the record hot summer months and where do we strike that maternal caution of that looks too adult? It's something I've been pondering all summer. And I have no real answers yet. Except that I'm not forcing my daughter into a one piece--she'll have the rest of her life to live in our culture which shames fat and freedom of girls all the time and tells her she's … [Read More...]

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#Curvy: An Ode to Instagram

#Curvy: An Ode to Instagram You can have us In chains, in ropes In various positions You can have us Anorexic and other smaller conditions You can search All day long for Porn and BDSM But search for a curvy girl And commit an insta-- sin. Cause seeing a curvy girl Will make the mainstream cringe Instagram, oh instagram What makes you fear us so? Cuz what? We’ll take over? And rule the insta-hos? Kindly give us back the word That doth belong to us And we’ll leave you alone And quit making so much fuss. (well, for the moment, anyhow) … [Read More...]

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Family: The Root of All Shame?

In a Body Positive group I found on FB a few weeks ago, a member of the group began thinking out loud about just how frequent it is that our first body shame happens in our own families. Often from our own mothers or grandmothers. We may blame the media about our negative body images of ourselves but often the first people sending us to the edge aren’t the models and photographers of Cosmo, they’re instead the people we see across the dinner table. Why?! In this respect it’s not unlike how we train our daughters to think that rapists and other violent predators are the strangers they don’t know lurking in parks and cities and anywhere where a young woman might find her freedom. But statistically, we know this to be false. Most women … [Read More...]

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A Celebration of Kinky

Coily. Curly. Kinky. Me. As a kid, "unique" was not a concept with which I was familiar. Four sisters have think hair that dances in the wind and strands that fly across their faces on the days when my own stood stubbornly still. I imagine, if my hair were human, she'd be standing there, glaring at the hair allowing itself to be molded and shaped. She'd be folding her arms across her chest, pissy and indignant. She'd huff and sneer when asked why she wasn't moving from where she stood. I don't wanna and you can't make me. That's what she'd say. Springy. Natural. Coarse. My hair was perfectly straight when I was born. Around ten months, though, fate stepped in and suddenly, overnight, my wispy baby tresses formed … [Read More...]

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Blink

She's showing me her new hair clip she got today from a crafter at the midnight madness event. I see the hair clip. It's cute and explains why she wanted 50 cents. But I see more. I see a little girl who is not my baby anymore and yet always will be. I see sass and spunk and single-minded determination to always get the last word and by God it's gonna break me to only concentrate on teaching her that her voice always matters as long as she never loses sight of respecting the person she is talking to (because sometimes I want to scream and yell and say things like Shut Up and Because I Said So, which is totally honest and I've heard its probably maybe incredibly counterproductive to raising a #chingona and not a doormat). I see The … [Read More...]

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Flaw

  By Shoshana Kohn   I was born with a congenital heart defect called Tetralogy of Fallot. Before 1944, babies born with Tetralogy of Fallot had no chance. After the creation of the Blalock-Thomas-Taussig shunt (pioneered by two women and one man) in 1944, babies could live into their late teenage years. The first complete repair was in the mid-50s. When I was born in 1980, they weren't yet doing the open heart surgery on babies. At 1, I had a Blalock-Thomas-Taussig shunt and at 4 I had open heart surgery. At 24, they were able to see if my unborn baby had TOF. They were also able to see if it was genetic. When I was pregnant at 31, they had already been operating on babies for years. When I lost my third baby at 34, I learned … [Read More...]

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Learning Body Positivity

by Alexa Grooms Alexa wrote this in response to a Facebook Group on Body Positivity whereupon people post photos of themselves, often to overcome feeling not okay with posting photos of oneself. At 19, she’s figuring it all out! After reading many posts of photos and thoughts of primarily larger women, Alexa felt compelled to write this: My name is Alexa, Ever since a friend told me about Girl Body Pride and the concept of body positivity I’ve been thinking about it. I'm a size 18/20, well ‘overweight’ and constantly trying to convince myself that I can be beautiful. But that's the thing. I had no idea what body positivity was. I thought I did, but I was wrong. Before I was introduced to this site, I thought body positivity meant … [Read More...]

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Tightrope

    By Shoshana Kohn In my favorite poem, "The Type," by spoken-word poet Sarah Kaye, is a line: "To fall in love...it is reaching for the tightrope when the crowds have all gone home." I've whispered this line over and over again. It's supposed to be about the faith of falling in love. However, the more I read it, the more it feels like that single act of bravery to be alone. Because, here's the thing about tightropes: They are long and thin and dangerous. While eventually, you may perfect the art of the lonely walk-- even savor it-- you can't learn it alone. When my unhappy dysfunctional marriage ended, I stared out at that tightrope wondering what happened to the crowds. Ever since I started walking the … [Read More...]